Many parents and caregivers have experienced their child showing separation anxiety. It can happen during drop off at child care or a family member’s house, or even just leaving the room for a few minutes. For me, there have been times I have felt sadness and guilt about leaving my own child, especially during his early days at school. While separation anxiety can cause adults to worry, it is an entirely normal behavior. It is also a great sign that your child is attached to you. Read below for some facts about separation anxiety and tips that can help:

What is Separation Anxiety?

• Separation anxiety is a normal behavior that usually starts when children are around the age of six months, when the child starts to develop a stronger bond with the primary caregiver. Separation anxiety then peaks around ten to eighteen months. Typically, by age five, children are more used to time apart.
• Some signs of separation anxiety include your child becoming clingy or getting upset when you leave their sight.
• Separation anxiety can vary. Some families experience it more than others. With support, separation anxiety can get easier.

Tips to Help Children Adjust 

• Stick to a routine as much as possible. Routines help children feel safe and secure.
• Create a short goodbye ritual for you and your child to do when you drop them off somewhere, such as a quick hug, a cool handshake, and an “I love you!” Stay consistent with this goodbye.
• Stay positive as you depart. Seeing you calm will help your child be calm.
• Talk to children about where they are going for the day and why. Let your child know when you will return to pick them up in simple terms. Instead of saying you will be back at 3:00pm, try “I’ll be back after naptime and before afternoon snack.” 

Each time you leave your child, you are giving them time to build confidence and independence. Adjusting can look different for each child. If you suspect that your child needs more support, reach out to your pediatrician. 

For additional help, contact our Child Care Resource and Referral team at 561-514-3300, or visit us at https://www.elcpalmbeach.org/child-care-resource-referral.  We are here to answer questions and support!